Dancing in the Dark (With Trina)

You can't start a fire without a spark. When we met, I knew I can be myself around her. I can talk freely and be honest. I can laugh at the goofy things of life. I can be troubled and not be afraid she will judge me. I can be spiritually vulnerable and strong. I love her.

Ed Sheeran & Christina Perri - Be My Forever in Orlando, FL

Though they did not sing it here in Houston, this is becoming my new fave!!!

Remiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiind Meeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!

My song!! So on fire and so in love, that look in your eyes I miss so much!!! Great line!!!

Why Can't We Be Friends?

The struggle is implied in the title; can single men and women truly "be friends?" I have been gifted to work well with women (haha), with the ability to understand them better than some men do. That's where the tension arises, when my emotional connection goes over the line of friendship, even if its unexpressed and unexplored. I have spoken to several single friends about this and most believe that it's impossible for men and women to close friends. I think it's possible, but with parameters: First, honest communication about the man's intentions, up front and center. Which means both parties must first be honest with themselves. I like this quote:(thedatingblook.wordpress.com)

"The guy has to decide, if he's going to be her friend, then he's choosing not to date her. If he is choosing to date her, he's choosing not to be her friend."

This sounds tough, but it keeps the boundaries clear and manageable. Friendship can be built early and established within the relationship. Second, be careful if you spend any time alone. This has the potential to heighten sexual tension and increase expectations (especially for men). Third, having an opposite sex BFF is not a good choice for women or men. Best friends of women need to be women and best friends of men, need to be men. It assists in keeping healthy distance and maintaining good boundaries. These are some thoughts I have regarding opposite sex friendships, gathered over the past few years, mostly from painful experience and unpleasant conversations.

She's Got a Way...by Billy Joel

She's got a way about her, I don't know what it is
But I know that I can't live without her.
She's got a way of pleasin', I don't know why it is
But there doesn't have to be a reason anywhere

She's got a smile that heals me, I don't know what it is
But I have to laugh when she reveals me.
She's got a way of talkin', I don't know why it is
But it lifts me up when we are walkin' anywhere

She comes to me when I'm feelin' down, Inspires me without a sound
She touches me and I get turned around.

She's got a way of showin', How I make her feel
And I find the strength to keep on goin', She's got a light around her
And ev'rywhere she goes a million, Dreams of love surround her ev'rewhere

She comes to me when I'm feelin' down, Inspires me without a sound
She touches me, I get turned around oh oh oh

She's got a smile that heals me, I don't know why it is
But I have to laugh when she reveals me.
She's got a way about her, I don't know what it is
But I know that I can't live without her any way

Valentines Day!

Tougher Than the Rest (1987) is easily my favorite love song by Springsteen! Check these lyrics...

Well It's Saturday night
you're all dressed up in blue
I been watching you awhile
maybe you been watching me too
So somebody ran out
left somebody's heart in a mess
Well if you're looking for love
honey I'm tougher than the rest

Some girls they want a handsome Dan
or some good-lookin' Joe on their arm
Some girls like a sweet-talkin' Romeo
Well 'round here baby
I learned you get what you can get
So if you're rough enough for love
honey I'm tougher than the rest

The road is dark
and it's a thin thin line
But I want you to know I'll walk it for you any time
Maybe your other boyfriends
couldn't pass the test
Well if you're rough and ready for love
honey I'm tougher than the rest

Well it ain't no secret
I've been around a time or two
Well I don't know baby maybe you've been around too
Well there's another dance
all you gotta do is say yes
And if you're rough and ready for love
honey I'm tougher than the rest
If you're rough enough for love
baby I'm tougher than the rest

Dating: In Search of...

At our Staff Retreat last weekend, I made a statement about my "lame" dating life. I said to Pastor Richey, Michelle, and Margaret..."I need to find a woman I can lead and be the more dominant person in the relationship."

He replied, "No, I don't think you have to be more dominant...it's not in your genes. You need a woman who will love you for who you are." Wow...I turned away and wept a little, as they continued talking about something else. I heard nothing for the next few minutes.

Your Grace Is Enough

In response to my current situation of dating or lackthereof...

So remember Your people
Remember Your children
Remember Your promise
Oh God

Your grace is enough
Your grace is enough
Your grace is enough for me

Your grace is enough
Heaven reaching down to us
Your grace is enough for me
God I see your grace is enough
I'm covered in your love
Your grace is enough for me
For me

His grace is enough and I'm okay with that.. today.

Who Likes To Be Alone?

- Who likes to be alone?
- Who likes to lay their head down at night, with an empty space beside them?
- Who likes to eat dinner, with the evening sun setting in the window, by themselves?
- Who likes to go to church and worship, alone with empty seats between you and the next person?
- Who likes to go to the zoo, without one who can you share smiles, touches, and pics?
- Who likes to see a great movie, with no one beside them?
- Who likes to go the ballgames and watch a great play with no one to high-five?
- Who likes to hear a love song, feel the emotion, and no one to hide the tears from?

I used to not enjoy being alone...I'm sadly getting used to it.